When You’ve Asked for Help… and Heard Nothing

Sometimes, the silence is the invitation. Here's how to respond.

We’ve all had moments, desperate, aching moments, where we’ve cried out to the Universe, Spirit, or God for help. You light a candle. You sit in meditation. You ask with your whole heart. And what do you get?

Silence.

It can feel like the most painful kind of abandonment. Like you’re lost in the dark and no one is coming. I hear this from clients more than you might imagine, and recently, someone wrote to me in that exact space: "I have begged for help and get nothing."

If you’ve felt this too, let me tell you something with all the love I can offer:
You are not being punished. You are not broken. And you are not alone.

The Nature of Silence

In the spiritual path, silence often gets mistaken for absence. But the silence isn’t a void, it’s a container. It holds something. It invites something.

Think of it like a still lake. Nothing seems to be happening on the surface, but beneath, there is movement, processing, rebalancing. When Spirit goes quiet, it’s not because it has turned its back. It’s because you’re being asked to turn inward, to listen in a deeper way.

This is not the kind of listening that comes from your ears.
It’s the kind that comes from your bones. From your cells. From your soul’s memory.

Why It Happens

So why does silence show up at the worst moments?

Because you are in initiation. Recalibration.

Your soul came here to grow. To remember its own light. To uncover its strength, not because someone handed it to you, but because you found it in the dark.

Silence is the cocoon.
It’s where the caterpillar becomes mush before the butterfly.
It’s uncomfortable, unfamiliar, and utterly necessary.

What to Do in the Silence

If you're in that space now—begging, waiting, hurting, here are a few invitations to hold onto:

• Stop asking for rescue. Ask for remembrance.
  You’re not here to be saved. You’re here to be restored. Ask, “What part of me have I forgotten?”

• Ground into your body.
  The answers we seek from the cosmos often come through our body first. Sit with your breath. Walk barefoot. Lay on the Earth. Let your nervous system return to a state of stillness.

• Let your pain be seen by you.
  You don’t need to bypass or spiritually reframe it all. Let yourself cry. Let yourself feel messy. Your humanness is sacred.

• Look for the soft signs.
  Spirit doesn’t always respond in thunderclaps. It might be a stranger’s kind word. A song on the radio. A feather. A sudden breeze. Spirit whispers before it shouts.

And If You Still Hear Nothing?

Then simply rest.
Let the silence hold you instead of haunt you.

Sometimes the greatest spiritual breakthroughs don’t come from pushing harder, they come when we surrender and stop trying to fix the silence and allow it to do its work.

You are not forgotten. You are not broken.
You are becoming.

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Love,
Jen

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